Here's to friendship
Monday, January 28, 2008
My last post got me thinking about friendship and how important it is in my life. I am fortunate to have a group of girlfriends that are always there for me. Many of them are writers, women I've met throughout my twenty-some years in this business. We get together rarely, but talk on the phone a lot. We are all very grateful for technology--our phone bills used to make our husbands swoon. Now, though, its free to talk and talk and talk. We've even begun to text back and forth so that we're always in communication. The best part about going out with writers is the direction of our conversation. People overhearing us might think we were murderers, vampires, princesses, or just about anything. Once my editor and I were in a hot tub at a day spa, talking about one of my novels, and very cavalierly tossing out ideas about how to kill someone. It took us a while to notice how people were looking at us...
I also have my childhood friends--this group primarily stayed in the small town where I once lived (where Firefly Lane is set, actually). My college friends are scattered all over the globe, but most are married career women/mothers, with whom I still have plenty in common. Even if we don't see each other much, I think of them often and fondly. And then there are the friends I made as a young mother. Most of them have kids the same age as my son, who went to the same school, and we kept each other sane throughout the years. I don't know that I would have made it through the teen years without their support and friendship.
Okay, I'll be honest: mostly sane. No one who has a teenaged son is absolutely sane. They suck it right out of you. :)
And since I'm admitting that I'm not entirely sane, I think I'll add some of my characters to my friends list. In many ways, they're portraits of my friends and family, and even of myself. More importantly, I spend a lot of time with them, so even though they're fictional, sometimes they help get me through the tough times, too. I told you I was crazy.
Also, for those romantics out there, I want to say that the movie Atonement had one of the mostly exquisitely romantic moments I've ever seen on film. Definitely swoon worthy. In fact, James MacAvoy's (spelling?) whole performance was killer.
bye for now,